#I just wanna be alone with you series#

Because I always feel that I havenвЂ™t done much at the end of the day. ThatвЂ™s why I often wonder if the speed of time has actually changed into a faster mode. You may think that because IвЂ™m a stay-at-home-mom, I should have all the time in a day to do whatever I want. And I also want to feel gratitude for being blessed with two lovely and ever-lively boys whose intelligence challenge mine all the time.Д«ut we both know that life is so busy that I canвЂ™t be alone anytime I want. Someone who has a mission to spread good and only good for people. I want to be able to feel gratefulВ for having a husband that cares about everyone so deeply. I just need my own space so I can appreciate everything that has happened in the last almost fifteen years of our marriage. IвЂ™ll let my child or partner know what was going on, and, if necessary, let them know that thereвЂ™s something I need.ItвЂ™s not because I donвЂ™t love you or that I donвЂ™t like you anymore. When IвЂ™m eventually ready to interact with people again, IвЂ™ll go back and apologize for snapping.

I may play a game on my phone for a few minutes or just pet the cat.Дuring this time IвЂ™ll also reflect on what IвЂ™m actually needing in that moment. When I find myself getting grumpy and snappy with my loved ones, IвЂ™ll put myself in what my family and I call a вЂњself-imposed timeout.вЂќ This is reserved for when one of us realizes theyвЂ™ve reached their limit and really need to take a few minutes away.ДЇor me, IвЂ™ll often go into the bedroom and take some deep breaths and practice grounding techniques, such as rubbing a smooth stone or smelling some essential oils.

So when little noises my child makes get under my skin, or when I get frustrated by my partner asking me a question, I know something is up. I pride myself on generally being pretty even-tempered. For example, I may ask my partner to pick up shampoo while theyвЂ™reД«y taking some of those little things off my plate, IвЂ™m able to regain some time to myself to properly relax and recharge. Would I feel better if I lie down for a few minutes?ДЇor help. Am I hungry? Do I need to drink some water? Is this situation really the end of the world? Usually this is a good time for me to practice self-care. Or I realize after leaving the store that I forgot to buy shampoo and burst into tears.ДЄnytime I notice that IвЂ™m no longer able to roll with these things and am instead stopped by them, itвЂ™s a good indicator to myself that IвЂ™ve got too much on my plate and need to take a break. Maybe I notice partway through making dinner that IвЂ™m missing an ingredient and become emotionally paralyzed trying to figure out a substitution. However, sometimes I find myself getting overwhelmed by the smallest things. Usually IвЂ™m very adept at juggling multiple responsibilities while keeping calm. Below is a list of five ways my mind and body signal that IвЂ™m overdue for some time on my own and what changes I make to ensure IвЂ™m properly looking after myself. Luckily, IвЂ™ve come to recognize the warning signs that IвЂ™m pushing myself too much. Sometimes that means stepping away from it all to spend some time on your own.Д«y not giving ourselves this time to recharge, we run the risk of burning out, both emotionally and physically. However, itвЂ™s essential to make sure we take care of ourselves, too. This is my body screaming that IвЂ™m overdue for some вЂњmeвЂќ time.ДЄs a mom, partner, and woman in this society, it can be easy to get caught up in a cycle of constantly doing things for other people.

#I just wanna be alone with you series#

Suddenly my internal dialogue is a long series of uuuuggggghhhhh noises while I feel my adrenaline rising. I could be on the couch reading or folding laundry in the bedroom when my partner comes and asks me something, or my child starts making noises while they play. It could be any typical evening: Dinner is cooking, my partner is doing things in the kitchen, and my child is playing in their room.